This letter is not for all the boys in this world, but for those selective few who came into my life when they were exactly that… A boy.
I do not want to name names nor do I want to point fingers, but I do want to get this behind me and move on. I can move on from the hurt that you brought me. The hurt of being called anti-social, fat, your “suffering ex-girlfriend.” The hurt of even thinking that I was the one with the problem because I (at that time) was going through anxiety and depression. The hurt of even being told that I needed to get my “shit together.”
You boys say that you didn’t mean it, but those words that you didn’t mean have stuck with me. They are words that I will never soon forget. You have all taught me a little something about myself and what I truly deserve. I thought I needed a boy like you to go on fun dates with and be my “better” half. I thought I needed a boy to take to my family parties and be the reason why I am changing my Facebook status from #SINGLE to #InARelationship.
Since you boys entered my life I have realized that I don’t need a boy to complete me. Honestly, I do not even need a man, but when the time comes when I meet my ‘prince charming’ I know he will be a man. A man of good character and of good morals. A man of respect and faithfulness. Honest, direct, mature, self-confident and positive are a few qualities that I respect and admire.
Someday when I am sitting with my daughter as she cries because of a boy who broke her heart I will talk about you. I will tell her what my mom said to me when I needed the advice which was “to never settle for less than what I truly deserve.” My daughter will meet boys like you, but because she will know her worth she will know that a better catch will sweep her off her feet later on when the time is right.
Someday when I have a son I will talk about you. I will share the comments that you said to me so my son will know he should never treat a girl like that. He will never say rude things to her and make her feel worthless, instead of feeling what every girl deserves to feel… worthy.
I no longer associate myself with boys who want to be in my life and say those things to me. I know that no boy will ever move up to being a man if they continue to say things like that. I know my worth, and I am worth far greater than you will ever know. I have standards so therefore I am not going to let you treat me like that.
I do want to thank you boys for making me realize my true worth and value. I wouldn’t be who I am today if you boys had never came into my life when you did. God brings people into our life for an exact reason and purpose…
I deserve a man and not a boy that is why you boys are no longer a part of my life.